Love and Stories
We all tell ourselves stories. It is a fundamental part of the human experience to subjectively define things in our world and to make sense of them with story. The story that we tell ourselves about who we are and our place in the world is important to help us find our identity and define how we relate to other people.
Everyone has a story that they tell themselves. Everyone also has a story that they tell other people – the veneer. That second story is an infinitely interesting crossroads between the story we tell ourselves about who we are and what we are brave enough to share with the world. For most of us, the courageous part is opening up – being vulnerable and trying to connect our story to the stories that live in the people around us.
Story sharing is ultimately the basis of human experience. So for this Valentine’s Day Edit, we are going to look at the simple beauty of story and how, maybe, there isn’t anyone you couldn’t love once you know their story.
Artists, like Freddie Mercury, Frida Kahlo, or Bowie, tell the world big stories. They take the story they want to share with the world and they amplify it beyond borders, cultural lines, genders and economics to share how they have interpreted their own human experience. If you put yourself out there like that and don’t worry you will be judged for it, but there is no win without risk.
Risk is the key component to story sharing and Australian singer Ben Lee brings this back to our Valentine’s Day theme in his song, “Gamble Everything for Love,”. All of a sudden, there are adolescent flashbacks to the gripping fear it meant to overcome the risk and tell someone else that you fancied them. At some point, to make that connection, you have to risk the unzipping of the story you tell ‘others’ to reveal more of the story that is the one you tell yourself.
Which brings us back to Valentine’s Day and the risk it takes to fuse your story to someone else’s – creating the story of us. Not only do you have to be brave for that story sharing, but you also have to do story learning, and story acceptance.